Addiction + Recovery

Navigating the Path from Survival to Stability

Addiction often begins as a way to survive pain, trauma, or overwhelming stress. But eventually, the survival mechanism becomes the barrier to the life you want. Whether you are the one struggling with substance use or the partner watching a loved one drift away, the cycle can feel impossible to break alone. Recovery is about more than just abstinence—it is about building a life you choose. We support individuals exploring identity, sexuality, and purpose, helping you navigate the complex path from survival mode to sustainable stability

I view recovery as more than just abstinence—it is about building a life so full of value that the addiction no longer has a place in it.

Through Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and a trauma-informed lens, we push beyond shame and punishment focusing instead on identifying the root of the pain, establishing safety, and taking actionable steps toward the person (and partner) you want to be.

I support individuals and families through four key pillars of recovery:

1. Individual Recovery & Identity Work

Moving beyond "just stopping" to finding a new way of living.

Shame Resilience: Breaking the silence of shame that fuels addiction, using compassion-focused tools to rebuild self-worth.
Values Alignment (ACT): Identifying who you are outside of the substance. We work to unhook from cravings and align your daily actions with your core values.
Trauma Processing: Addressing the underlying wounds or unseen stressors that the addiction was trying to medicate.

2. Relationship Reconstruction

Healing the wounds of broken promises and rebuilding a solid foundation of trust.

Restoring Trust: Using Gottman Method tools to navigate the aftermath of lies or betrayal. We focus on transparency where trust is rebuilt in small, daily interactions.
Safe Communication: replacing the cycle of accusation and defensiveness with honest, vulnerable conversations about needs and triggers.
Intimacy After Addiction: Navigating the awkwardness of sober intimacy and learning to connect authentically without a buffer.

3. Support for Partners & Loved Ones

Because addiction impacts the entire family system, not just the individual.

Navigating Codependency: shifting from fixing or policing your partner to supporting them while maintaining your own emotional health.
Setting Boundaries: Learning the difference between a boundary (for your safety) and an ultimatum (for control), and how to hold them without guilt.
Betrayal Trauma: specialized support for partners processing the shock and grief of the double life often associated with addiction.

4. Sustainable Maintenance & Relapse Prevention

Designing a life that supports long-term resilience.

Urge Surfing: Practical mindfulness techniques to ride out cravings without acting on them.
Life Design: Creating a routine, environment, and social circle that supports recovery, so you aren't just white-knuckling it through the day.
Crisis Planning: proactively creating a roadmap for high-stress moments to prevent a slip from becoming a full relapse.